The Only Time You Will Hear Back from a Narcissist Who Discarded You

To begin with, a lot of narcissists, especially covert narcissists, won’t actually discard you. They’ll just make your life miserable and make you feel like crap about yourself until YOU leave. Then they’ll blame you for leaving and say it was your problem.

When you leave, there might be a lack of reaction that’s almost eerie. You might get little more than a shrug. Or they might seem uncharacteristically zen and say something like, “OK, you should do whatever is best for you.” On the one hand, it can be a relief when something you’d thought might lead to an argument turns out to be so low drama. On the other hand, it can be a bit destabilizing when you had invested a lot of time and energy into the relationship and possibly had agonized about leaving it for weeks, months, or even years only to have the narcissist(s) seem completely indifferent when you finally walk out.

Don’t be fooled.

Weeks, months, or even years might go by with radio silence from the narcissist(s) you had left. You might figure they had moved on, like you have, and have learned from the experience (LOL) or have found a new source of supply, or be doing whatever else they do now that you’re no longer in the picture and no longer care.

Then one day — out of the blue — you’ll get a text. Or a phone message. Or “coincidentally” run into them. Or hear from one of their flying monkey friends. Suddenly they’ll be saying they missed you, or they’ve been…